Is It Okay to Postpone Decisions When I Am Distressed?
Not only is it okay to postpone decisions when you are distressed, it’s likely a good idea. When you are very distressed, overwhelmed, triggered, exhausted, or dissociated, you are likely…
When Parts Want Opposite Things, What Should the System Do?
Although it might not seem like it at first glance, even when parts appear to want opposite things, they may have the same goal. The difference is often in how…
When Should Safety Take Priority Over Growth in DID?
It can be difficult to prioritize safety in a hustle culture that is always pushing for growth. When it comes to healing, safety should be thought of as a necessary…
How Do I Stop Making a Hard Moment Harder in DID?
To stop making a hard moment harder, take a look at what you are telling yourself. Hard moments often become even harder when you talk to yourself like this: harsh…
Training Coping Skills So They Work Under Stress
The problem: when you know your skills but can’t use them Many trauma survivors have experienced knowing coping skills but not being able to access or remember them when needed.…
Contents of Why Slowing Down Can Help Trauma Healing Move Forward
Why Slowing Down Can Help Trauma Healing Move Forward How to respond to overwhelm and internal conflict in ways that prioritize safety, stability, and capacity. Core Concepts: Monitoring for Safety…
Why Are Skills Easier to Use Under Stress When Practiced?
Skills often become more effective with practice. That’s why it helps to practice a skill over time before deciding it doesn’t work for you. Practice has a second benefit. When…
When Is the Best Time to Use Skills in DID?
The earlier in a situation you’re able to use skills or strategies, the more likely they are to help. As distress increases, the nervous system has less ability to use…
Why Do Gentle Routines Help Improve Functioning in DID?
Routines can improve how your system functions because they reduce uncertainty. Predictable patterns help parts of the system know what to expect, which can make situations feel more manageable. When…
What Should I Avoid to Improve System Functioning?
Sometimes, it’s what you don’t do that has the greatest impact on how your system functions. Certain patterns can increase stress, internal conflict, or dysregulation, even when they are intended…