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If you grew up experiencing gaslighting, invalidation, or chronic criticism, it can become very difficult to trust your own perceptions. Over time, many people learn to automatically assume that other…

If you find it difficult to form your own opinions, it may because you weren’t allowed to have your own growing up. For example, when you volunteered an opinion, it…

You may feel like you can’t trust your own experiences because you learned growing up not to trust your perceptions. This can happen if you experienced a lot of gaslighting.…

Assuming others are right and that you are wrong is often a trauma response. People with dissociative systems often grew up in environments where they were not allowed to have…

I'm supposed to be healing. Why am I feeling worse emotionally? Regardless of the reason a client is seeing me, one of the things we talk about at the very…

Progress in healing can sometimes feel destabilizing for a period of time because it can disrupt routines. Many systems have certain habits, routines, and ways of functioning which they have…

When times get stressful, your more of nervous system’s resources are needed to cope with the increased demands. This leaves fewer resources available to work on healing and making progress.…

Your system may protect you from change as a risk management strategy. That is, change may be viewed as avoidable risk. From your protectors’ points of view, change is not…

Healing involves change, and change can feel unsafe. Oftentimes, change can be viewed as unnecessary risk by parts of a dissociative system. The current situation is a known quantity and…

It might seem paradoxical, but successful efforts to heal can leave you feeling as though your situation worsened for a period of time. This can happen because you become more…