Why Don’t I Know What I Want or Need?
You may have grown up in an environment where having your own opinions or wants led to harm or criticism. If so, you likely learned that adopting the opinions and…
You may have grown up in an environment where having your own opinions or wants led to harm or criticism. If so, you likely learned that adopting the opinions and…
Self-doubt can feel constant when you grew up in environments where your perceptions, emotions, memories, or opinions were regularly dismissed, criticized, ignored, or punished. Over time, many people learn to…
If you grew up experiencing gaslighting, invalidation, or chronic criticism, it can become very difficult to trust your own perceptions. Over time, many people learn to automatically assume that other…
If you find it difficult to form your own opinions, it may because you weren’t allowed to have your own growing up. For example, when you volunteered an opinion, it…
You may feel like you can’t trust your own experiences because you learned growing up not to trust your perceptions. This can happen if you experienced a lot of gaslighting.…
Assuming others are right and that you are wrong is often a trauma response. People with dissociative systems often grew up in environments where they were not allowed to have…
You may have experienced this: someone asks what you’d like or need, and you…don’t know. When you check inside, there’s no answer. It can be frustrating for both you and…
Many trauma survivors struggle with chronic self-doubt. You may second-guess your thoughts, emotions, memories, decisions, reactions, or perceptions. Even small choices can feel uncertain or emotionally loaded. You might find…
It can feel hard to trust your own judgment when your decisions, perceptions, or reactions have been questioned, overridden, or dismissed over time. If you learned that your judgment led…
Dissociation can make it harder to trust your internal experiences because it affects awareness, memory, and continuity. You may not always have access to the same thoughts, feelings, or information…