Is Self-Kindness Always Supposed to Feel Warm and Soft?
No, self-kindness or self-compassion does not have to feel warm, soft, gentle, or comforting. Self-kindness can feel neutral. Instead of soft or warm, it can be firm, practical, or protective.…
No, self-kindness or self-compassion does not have to feel warm, soft, gentle, or comforting. Self-kindness can feel neutral. Instead of soft or warm, it can be firm, practical, or protective.…
No, feeling like nothing is changing as you try to heal does not mean that you are stuck. For DID and OSDD, healing is often slow and subtle. It may…
In trauma recovery, progress is often subtle. You might stay grounded a little longer during a trigger, recover more quickly after being triggered or dissociating, or notice internal tension before…
So much in healing can seem uncertain or out of your control, but you can be intentional about your focus. You can: notice what you repeatedly practice choose where your…
Self-kindness can help trauma recovery by making healing work feel safer and more sustainable. Harsh, critical self-talk often increases nervous system distress and can make triggers, shutdown, dissociation, or overwhelm…
Early stability in DID often appears as a gradual reduction in distress. Systems may begin to experience more communication and cooperation between parts, less frequent or less intense internal conflict,…
It can feel discouraging to put significant effort into healing and not see obvious results. Much of trauma healing happens in the brain and nervous system. These changes often begin…
Small daily actions can influence the nervous system through repetition. When a behavior or response is practiced regularly, the brain interprets that pattern as important and strengthens the neural pathways…
Yes, small changes can matter a great deal in trauma recovery. In dissociative systems, the internal structure developed in ways that helped the person survive overwhelming circumstances. Because that structure…
Becoming triggered does not mean you are not healing. In many cases, healing shows up not as the disappearance of triggers but as changes in how you respond to them.…