Telling yourself to “get over it” is often something you learned from other people. If your feelings, needs, or struggles were dismissed growing up, you may have learned to dismiss yourself the same way. Many people were taught that emotions should be hidden, ignored, or pushed through. Self-directed phrases such as “get over it” may have once reduced exposure to criticism or conflict.
Saying “get over it” can be an attempt to stop painful feelings quickly. It can also be a way of trying to regain control when you feel overwhelmed.
In dissociative systems, some parts may strongly believe that emotions are dangerous, unhelpful, or should be ignored.
This page is part of the Trauma Rules and Invisible Survival Beliefs section of the CommuniDID site, which explains how beliefs like “don’t trust anyone” or “I must never make mistakes” develop and persist.
Explore more:
- Questions about Trauma Rules and Invisible Survival Beliefs
- Learn more about self-compassionate messages in How Does Self-Kindness Actually Help Trauma Recovery? and Is Self-Kindness Always Supposed to Feel Warm and Soft?
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