Why We Overreact and Feel Embarrassed Later

Have you ever noticed that you tend to have an emotional reaction to many events or triggers and then later, sometimes much later, your thinking brain has a response? Why is this? For people who...

When Alters Have Conflicting Memories

Trigger warning: this post talks about sexual assault. Sometimes, alters in a system will have conflicting memories of the same event. For example, one alter may have memories of being sexually abused...

What to Do When You Have Decompensated

As I talked about last week, decompensation is a psychological emergency. It is a significant worsening of your psychological functioning, a collapse set off by extreme stress. If you have DID, OSDD...

I Have DID But I’m Not Hearing Alters

Sometimes, people who have DID or OSDD or who suspect they have it start to doubt themselves because they aren’t hearing different voices in their heads. Does this mean they don’t have DID or OSDD?...

Have You Experienced Decompensation?

If you have OSDD, DID, or complex PTSD, you’ve almost certainly experienced decompensation, although you might not be familiar with the name. Decompensation means a significant worsening of...

I Need Your Input

I want my videos to be helpful to you. I want them to address topics, concerns, and questions that you have. If you feel comfortable, you can leave them in the comments to this video. If you prefer to...

Are Littles Actually Children?

Littles often appear as children in the internal world and act and speak like children. But ARE they children? The short answer is: It depends. The longer answer is that some are and others aren’t...

Then and Now, Part 3: Anchors

This is the last video in this 3-part series on helping parts stuck in trauma time understand that it’s 2025 and not some year in the past. Last week I talked about using a timeline. Today, I want to...

A Plan for Dealing with Flashbacks

In her book Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors, therapist and trauma expert Lisa Ferentz provides readers with a plan for dealing with flashbacks. Flashbacks are memories of trauma that feel...