Why All-or-Nothing Thinking Shows Up in DID

All-or-nothing thinking is so common in trauma and dissociation that it’s worth spending some time on. But first—what is it, and where did it come from? Also called black-and-white thinking, this...

How Accountability Can Actually Make Your DID System Safer

When I say the word “accountability,” what ideas come to mind? If I say “You need to be accountable for your actions,” do your thoughts go to punishment, blame, or shame? That’s common. Many people...

Can You Trust Your Memories?

If you’ve been working on healing from trauma—especially if you’re exploring DID or parts work—you’ve probably asked yourself at some point:Can I trust my memories?It’s a painful question. And an...

Why We Overreact and Feel Embarrassed Later

Have you ever noticed that you tend to have an emotional reaction to many events or triggers and then later, sometimes much later, your thinking brain has a response? Why is this? For people who...

When Alters Have Conflicting Memories

Trigger warning: this post talks about sexual assault. Sometimes, alters in a system will have conflicting memories of the same event. For example, one alter may have memories of being sexually abused...

What to Do When You Have Decompensated

As I talked about last week, decompensation is a psychological emergency. It is a significant worsening of your psychological functioning, a collapse set off by extreme stress. If you have DID, OSDD...

I Have DID But I’m Not Hearing Alters

Sometimes, people who have DID or OSDD or who suspect they have it start to doubt themselves because they aren’t hearing different voices in their heads. Does this mean they don’t have DID or OSDD?...

Have You Experienced Decompensation?

If you have OSDD, DID, or complex PTSD, you’ve almost certainly experienced decompensation, although you might not be familiar with the name. Decompensation means a significant worsening of...

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