It can sometimes feel wrong to call emotional neglect trauma because it doesn’t look violent or overwhelming. When we think of trauma, we often think of physical violence. Neglect is the absence of something that should have happened, such as helping a young child to regulate emotions until they had the skills to do it themselves. Neglect is less noticeable than abuse and can appear less harmful.
Young children depend on their caregivers for more than food, shelter, and clothing. They also look to them for comfort, protection, attention, and emotional support. Trauma is the experience of being overwhelmed by something a person cannot fully cope with. A child who doesn’t receive protection or emotional support when they need it may not be able to cope with the experience. IIt may be too much for their developing nervous system and coping abilities.
This page is part of the What Counts as Trauma? section of the CommuniDID site, which explains how trauma can occur without obvious violence and why survivors often doubt or normalize what happened to them.
Explore more:
- Questions about What Counts as Trauma?
- The guide What Counts as Abuse? helps readers evaluate past experiences and understand why confusion about abuse is common.
- Can You Have Trauma Without Obvious Abuse?
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