If you were raised in an environment that didn’t allow you to have boundaries, you might feel guilty setting limits as an adult. If you survived by being a people-pleaser, then you learned to put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own. Boundaries are a way of prioritizing your own needs, and you might feel guilty doing so.
Setting and holding boundaries can go against your childhood experiences. Some people set very reasonable limits that others in their lives don’t like. In some cases, those people may use guilt, pressure, or even gaslighting to try to get you to drop your boundaries.
This page is part of the How Do Boundaries Function in Dissociative Identity Disorder section of the CommuniDID site, which explains why limits may feel unsafe, how parts react differently to boundaries, and how boundary-setting supports stability and identity.
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