If you experienced complex trauma growing up, you experienced harm at the hands of people who were important in your life. It makes sense that parts of you may be afraid of getting too close to others. Those parts expect to be hurt again. Parts of your system may have learned that closeness is dangerous.
Some people fear getting close to others out of fear the others will see too much. They worry that others will see parts of them which feel shameful, vulnerable, unacceptable, or which they reject. Closeness can also feel dangerous because it means you have more to lose if the relationship changes or ends.
Some people fear becoming dependent on someone because dependence once led to hurt, disappointment, or betrayal.
This page is part of the Attachment Survival and Relational Survival Patterns in DID section of the CommuniDID site, which explains how attachment fear, fawning, and relational hypervigilance develop in dissociative systems.
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