What may look like sabotage to you may be viewed by another alter as protecting the system.
For example, you agree to go on a date with someone you’ve known for a while. You believe they are a good person, and the date goes well. But afterward, you don’t hear from them. When you check your messages, you find that you sent a harsh or accusatory text. Now the connection appears to be ruined.
From your perspective, this feels like sabotage. But from another part’s point of view, relationships may feel dangerous. That part may believe people will use you or take advantage of your trust. Sending that message may have been their way of ending the relationship before harm could occur.
Sometimes, what looks like sabotage is actually an attempt to protect you.
In other cases, the issue may not be the goal itself, but the pace. If something is happening too quickly, another part may step in to slow things down. Moving more gradually can sometimes reduce that kind of internal opposition.
This page is part of the Understanding Parts and Internal Roles section of the CommuniDID site, which explains why these roles develop and how they function within a dissociative system.
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